Why aren't "extra marital affairs" illegal?
When a murderer walks down a street, after completing his sentence, people still fear him and walk away. A rapist is always considered an outcast in society. A thief, no matter how insignificant the amount stolen by him, is always looked down upon, by society.
What is common among these three cases? All these cases make it very clear, that once a person commits a crime – big or small, he is never completely and freely accepted by society again.
But there is one crime, that people refuse to accept as a crime in the first place – EXTRA MARITAL AFFAIRS.
This “crime” has always amazed me. One person’s senseless, insensitive, irresponsible and immoral behavior ruins the life of his/her spouse and his/her children (Please do not accuse me of being sexist and referring to the cheating spouse as “his” or “him” or “he” all the time, but typing “his/her” is pretty tiring, so just assume it to be “his/her”) and the law has nothing besides a divorce, which would be something that help him and leave his family to be satisfied with a measly alimony amount, which most probably won’t be given to them in the long run.
No one can ever justify an extra marital affair. Any person who justifies another person "guilty" of having an extra marital affair, needs to have his brain recycled, because it has clearly crossed its expiry date.
The law may argue, that extra marital affairs are a “personal” issue, and hence, they can’t interfere, or punish someone for having one. I really don’t get the logic behind the entire “personal” issue argument.
You damage someone’s life, shatter 98.9% of that person’s dreams, cheat the person you’ve entered into the contract of marriage with, and get away with it, by burping up some dough and some pathetic liar’s – oh ! I’m sorry, I meant lawyer’s fees.
Come to think of it, aren’t most murders fueled by “personal issues” too?
Isn’t rape just another “personal issue” between the rapist and the victim?
When a thief robs a man of his belongings, isn’t it a “personal issue” between the thief and the victim?
I think its about time the law declared “extra marital affairs” illegal and punishable by law. Stable families will bring about stable societies, and prevent a lot of people from straying onto the wrong path, just because one of their selfish parents decided to shirk their responsibilities, to have some “personal” fun.
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1) Adultery is illegal as per section 497, 498 of IPC. Funny part is that only men are punishable. :)
2) Extra marital "affair" is hard to prove unless caught red-handed (whatever that means in this context). Otherwise it's more like intention to steal rather than theft.
Erm.. Erm... valid arguments and yet i dunno why i am not convinced
I wonder if they're thinking of the children and the aftermath of their decisions.
Then again, as human beings we are also animals. Promiscuity can be found deep in our roots. Closed marriages and society restrict this. But by doing so it builds up inside till the poor human cannot take it anymore.
And therefore the human kills, eats, steals, copulates and so on to satisfy his desires and wants.
The separation of the couple (if that is the solution) is also mutual consent which is not the same when it is a rape.
Such cases are taken on only when asked for legal help but remain personal otherwise.
@V:
Women should be punished too! x-(
@Floey:
thanks for explaining the difference -_-
@Meena:
you mean it shouldn't be made illegal? :O
You cannot completely make it illegal. It will be a long and drawn out process in which the 'powers-that-be' will have to state reasons as to when the law can or cannot stick it's foot in the matter.
There will even be times when the couple in question will not want the law interfering in their lives stating that they are in complete control of it themselves.
what about people who cheat on their gf's/bf's? why should it be limited only to marriages?
I am against cheating of all kind! someone betraying your trust hurts a lot!
But I don't think anything can be done about it... we shouldn't look at the law for such answers!
sometimes i wonder if all of us got it wrong, maybe humans can't be monogamous!
In retrospect anyone who trusts someone is foolish! you need to spy on your spouse/significant other! :P
Dedicated marriage is like a Life insurance policy - secure but low interest gain.
Extra marital affairs add the mutual fund benefit to it. Those who get caught had merely forgotten to "read the offer document carefully before investing".
Market dynamics rule !! :)
People have become market savvy
"Why aren't "extra marital affairs" illegal?"
May be because polyandry or polygamy is not irrational or because marriage is not always about sex or emotional relation?
Extra Marital affairs is nothing wrong, wrong is in the habit of cheating.
Now legal or illegal is something tricky.
As a matter of fact, law must always be based on reason, and for that, defining the property is a requisite. What is being hurt if someone cheats you emotionally? That is, can emotions be considered as "property"? Now if emotions can be considered as "property" than emotional hurts, via extra marital affairs (which are cheat and not all are cheat)can be legally termed as illegal.
But we cannot state emotions as "property" because emotions are always subjectively perspective, they are not objectively based on reason.
Yet, on extra-marital affair charges, if you don't agree to it with your spouse, you can certainly file a divorce and sue him out a high alimony which he will have to pay anyhow, that is on reasonable grounds, extra-marital affairs are surely punishable, if they are not in agreement with each of the spouse of the couple.
A guy in the US sues his wife and asks for an annulment of the marriage on the grounds he is a sex addict and his wife cant satisfy his addiction!!!
is this guy ever gonna make anyone happy? he has 2 children and i mean why are we letting such people loose they should be tried and thrown in2 jails
@Flo:
"There will even be times when the couple in question will not want the law interfering", thats their problem then, but to there are many who will definitely be in need of such a law.
@daydreamingoralce:
It will begin with making extra marital affairs being made illegal, and then, as time passes by, people will insist that all other forms of cheating be made punishable too.
@unpretentious_diva:
"Extra Marital affairs is nothing wrong, wrong is in the habit of cheating."
Well.. I can't really argue with anyone who thinks extra marital affairs aren't wrong, and I don't see any difference between having an affair outside one's marriage and cheating..
@Ishaan:
"why are we letting such people loose they should be tried and thrown in2 jails?"
Completely agree with you on that one.
@ishaan....
im sure that guy will get his addiction cured in jail :|
(if u get what i mean)
heh...
@ Mani...
Niice
@Daniel he''ll find it a lil different but yes his addiction will be dealt with
I guess this was long overdue:
http://panacea4insomnia.blogspot.com/2008
/04/blog-response-in-lieu-of-comment.html
sure families make better societies and marraiges are supposed to last forever, but it does not make sense to make it a punishable act. how will that help the affected family? wont others just try to be more secretive . what makes more sense is to send them for councelling.
What an idiotic idea! So, you want to make extramarital affairs illegal, do you? Fine. Then I'll just divorce your ass, instead. After all, a divorce is so much easier to deal with than an affair. Right? Hey, you want to send my ass to jail, I might as well kick yours out onto the street before you have the chance. Fend for yourself, sweetheart. You don't care what happens to me, then I don't care what happens to you.
How are extra marital affairs NOT a personal issue? It's between the couple along with the whomever the one is having an affair with. If you can't see the logic then you should really open your mind up to new ideas instead of being so close minded that you compare having extra marital affairs to someone being raped. How you could possibly even TRY to compare the two is unbelievable. Rape can scar people for the rest of their lives, it's torture and can lead the person to do many horrific things. I'm not sure if you've just been cheated on or what but you should really try to rethink this whole ordeal. When people get married, they obviously trust each other a lot to make this decision. If one of them happens to break the bonds of marriage, then apparently he shouldn't have gone through with getting married if he couldn't handle it. On the other hand, someone raping another human being because they may have some sort of mental issue, or something not clicking right in their mind has nothing to do with trust. I sincerely hope you can try and understand how rape and having an affair while married is different.
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